Is love a decision?

The ans­wer to this ques­ti­on is a clear “yes”. Yes and no. It all depends on what form of love we are tal­king about. Sci­en­tists have dis­co­ver­ed that the­re are 14 types of love. One of them is “Eros”. This type gives you but­ter­flies in your sto­mach and releases huge amounts of hap­pi­ness hor­mo­nes. You feel it when you meet a spe­cial per­son to whom you feel attrac­ted. When your eyes meet, the air crack­les. Every touch feels like a small elec­tric shock, the memo­ry of which lin­gers for a long time. But this form of love has less to do with a decis­i­on. Except, of cour­se, the decis­i­on to want to meet the per­son as often as pos­si­ble or to seek their clo­sen­ess ; )

A firm fri­end­ship with this per­son descri­bes the second type of love: “Stor­ge”. This type has more to do with a decis­i­on. In a fri­end­ship, both peo­p­le deci­de to spend time tog­e­ther, to share ice cream, cho­co­la­te or even life. They go on adven­tures tog­e­ther or at least watch them tog­e­ther at the movies. But the­se deep fri­end­ships have unfort­u­na­te­ly beco­me rare in this day and age. Would you like to know what makes such a fri­end­ship or how to get one? Find out here.

But the­re is a much deeper form of love, the foun­da­ti­ons of which are based deep­ly on a decis­i­on: Name­ly, to love ano­ther per­son com­ple­te­ly devo­ted­ly and sel­fless­ly, wit­hout expec­ting any­thing in return. Yes, even much more: to sacri­fice ones­elf for them, even if this ent­ails dis­ad­van­ta­ges. The name of this form of love is “aga­pe”. Admit­ted­ly: It’s not exact­ly my strong point. Loving someone just like that and inves­t­ing in them again and again, even though I get not­hing in return? Let’s be honest: don’t we all expect some­thing in return? And if it’s just an “I love you too”? Then why does this form of love even exist if no one seems to be able to ful­fill it? Becau­se the­re is someone who has exem­pli­fied this love. And this per­son shows us their secret of how we can love as they do. In the blog post “Love in per­son”, you can find out more about this per­son and the gre­at secret behind it.