Is love a decision?

The answer to this question is a clear “yes”. Yes and no. It all depends on what form of love we are talking about. Scientists have discovered that there are 14 types of love. One of them is “Eros”. This type gives you butterflies in your stomach and releases huge amounts of happiness hormones. You feel it when you meet a special person to whom you feel attracted. When your eyes meet, the air crackles. Every touch feels like a small electric shock, the memory of which lingers for a long time. But this form of love has less to do with a decision. Except, of course, the decision to want to meet the person as often as possible or to seek their closeness ; )

A firm friendship with this person describes the second type of love: “Storge”. This type has more to do with a decision. In a friendship, both people decide to spend time together, to share ice cream, chocolate or even life. They go on adventures together or at least watch them together at the movies. But these deep friendships have unfortunately become rare in this day and age. Would you like to know what makes such a friendship or how to get one? Find out here.

But there is a much deeper form of love, the foundations of which are based deeply on a decision: Namely, to love another person completely devotedly and selflessly, without expecting anything in return. Yes, even much more: to sacrifice oneself for them, even if this entails disadvantages. The name of this form of love is “agape”. Admittedly: It’s not exactly my strong point. Loving someone just like that and investing in them again and again, even though I get nothing in return? Let’s be honest: don’t we all expect something in return? And if it’s just an “I love you too”? Then why does this form of love even exist if no one seems to be able to fulfill it? Because there is someone who has exemplified this love. And this person shows us their secret of how we can love as they do. In the blog post “Love in person”, you can find out more about this person and the great secret behind it.